Self-esteem is at the root of how we perceive ourselves, that is our worth, ability, and how others see us. It deeply shapes us. Early relationships, especially those with parents during childhood, are believed to play an essential role in the growth of our self-esteem and most importantly, our perception of self. Self-esteem is also central to our well-being, as it is the basis of our relationships. Despite this, not all of us have the same self-esteem or better still a good one. However, there are ways to improve by being willing to challenge the negative feelings, thoughts, and judgments you have toward yourself.
Common Causes Of Low Self-Confidence
- Unsupportive parents or caregivers as they play an influential role in our lives.
- Stressful life events such as divorce, losing a loved one, job loss, etc.
- Trauma, abuse, or other medical issues.
- Failure or Low achievement
While it can be reasonable to lack confidence at times, a consistent lack of confidence leads to poor performance in our various endeavors or even failure. Building healthy self-esteem is a gradual process, as it takes time and patience to overcome the challenges of low self-esteem and to get back to a positive image and outlook.
Steps To Building High Self-Esteem
Remind yourself that despite your problems, you are a unique and valuable person and that your dreams and aspirations are valid. Identify and rid yourself of any negative thoughts about yourself. Such feelings can be like “I will fail, “I am not good enough,” or “no one wants to be with me,” etc.
Loving yourself regardless of all the flaws and inadequacies you might think you have, and fully embracing your person. Self-love is an exponential force, and with it comes an abundance of goodness never imagined.
Cultivate Meaningful Relationships
As much as we try to achieve everything ourselves, we cant. We do need constant support and love from people around you to stay motivated and on track. Having the support of reliable and trusted friends is invaluable to us as we proceed in the journey of life. It is crucial to have a community you value around you regularly.
Focus On Your Strength
Being aware of your strengths and weaknesses enable you to take steps to start to address them. But, without a good understanding of this, it is hard to improve. Therefore, it is essential to make the best use of your areas of strength. At the same time, you must also address some of your weaknesses and overcome them.
Affirm Your Real Worth
Affirmation enables us to change the way we think over time. They are also a great way to build your confidence and self-worth when you repeat them continuously. When you are confident about your thoughts and actions, you become better at the things you attempt in life. With more accomplishments comes an increase in self-esteem. So, it is a positive cycle that can build on itself, bringing with it the positivity you need to achieve more successes. Eventually, you can build up greater confidence and self-esteem.